Losing a loved one, especially a parent causes pain that is beyond describable with words. It is never easy to say goodbye to a beloved parent. They have a very special place in our lives and in our hearts. However, parents have enormous life experience that is selflessly used it to bring their kids on better life paths than their own. The children are always before everything else in their lives. Also before their deaths.
Some parents who were planning for the inevitable tragedy were thinking of ways to make the kid’s pain more bearable. They left heartwarming and soul-stirring gifts and letters to the children who they left behind. Reading those letters is moving and touching as they are the tangible connection to the parents.
Scroll down to read the emotional letters from these parents, courtesy of Ranker. Some have left humorous but powerful letters, some have written a book. Let your heart be melted with their heartwarming stories and don’t be ashamed to shed a tear or two.
1. Ben Thomas wrote letters for his baby daughter
When he was dying of ALS in 2012, Ben Thomas left a final gift for his daughter. He left her series of letters full of advice about life, love, and family.
“Even though you’re only 18 months old, whenever you help me with something, I feel like you love me and that you are not embarrassed. When I eat, my hands get messy because they don’t work very well. Lots of times you get into the baby wipes and bring one over and start wiping my hands.” read one of the letters.
He advised Emmerson:”happiness is a choice. People can take things from you, or your health can be taken from you, but you can always choose to be happy.”
2. Heather McManamy wrote a hilarious note to her family
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Before dying in 2015 of breast cancer, Heather McManamy left something for her family that they won’t forget. The Wisconsin born parent and wife left a hilarious letter for her loved ones. Also, her gift included a “lifetime of greeting cards” for her daughter Brianna.
The letter begins with”So…I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is, apparently, I’m dead.” She obliged her husband to post the letter on Facebook after her death, as well as how she wants her daughter to find out about her death.
She made sure that she leaves one part brighter: “If you go to my funeral, please run up a bar tab that would make me proud. Heck, blast ‘Keg on My Coffin’ and dance on the bar for me (because there had better be a dance party at some point).”
3. Bailey Sellers received flowers from her late father
“My dad passed away when I was 16 from cancer and before he died he prepaid flowers so i could receive them every year on my birthday. Well this is my 21st birthday flowers and the last. Miss you so much daddy” she wrote on her Twitter post.
— Bailey Sellers (@SellersBailey) November 24, 2017
Bailey Sellers father died of cancer when she was 16 years old. Before, he was going above and beyond to make her special days memorable. But, before dying, he made sure that flowers are prepared and delivered to her on every birthday until she turned 21.
In 2017 she got his last present from him “This is my last love letter to you until we meet again. I do not want you to shed another tear for me my baby girl, for I am in a better place,” her father, Michael wrote.
4. One dad leaves many notes and piles of books for his children before his death.
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The husband and father of two, Paul Flanagan died of cancer in 2009. Before dying he left a lifetime of letters and gifts for his two beloved children. His last gift included some books he wanted his kids to read and some recorded messages as well.
He also included 28 instructions on how to live a good life.
“The three most important virtues are loyalty, integrity and moral courage. If you aspire, friends will respect you, employers will retain you, and your father will be immensely proud of you.”
5. Emily Excell’s father left her a note to be read at her wedding
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Before dying of cancer in 2001, Todd Excell, Emily’s father left her a letter to be read at her wedding. She was left heartbroken when her uncle read the letter.
“You are my heart and soul and always will be,” he wrote. “ I love you, Emily. I know I would love your new husband. To your new husband, I will be walking with you, too.”
6. Tom Attwater left a life’s worth of advice for his daughter
Tom Attwater died of an aggressive brain tumor. He left a letter for his five-year-old stepdaughter Kelli before dying. She herself had survived cancer twice. The letter included worthy advice about love, life, and career. It closed with: “Enjoy your life. Don’t rush through it. I will be waiting.”
7. Lindsay Eldridge’s kids got framed letters from their mother
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Lindsay from Manchester died when she was 40 years old of esophageal cancer in 2015. Before passing away she left some letters with advice, and some of her trademark good humor. Lindsay bought some presents for her kids’ birthdays in the years to come.
She expresses the love for her husband as she wrote that she would always be there to “give him a kick up the bum if needed.”
Lindsay wrote to her son, Ryan that she is proud of him, whereas for her daughter she wrote: “I want you to carry on working hard at school… makes sure you take your dad on plenty of shopping trips and spend lots of money!… Just remember when you choose your wedding dress… I’ll be the proudest mum in heaven.”
8. Elisa Girotto left her baby daughter 18 Years of gifts
L’ultimo gesto di Elisa: regali fino ai 18 anni per la sua bambina –
Elisa Girotto aveva …
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Tragically, Elisa Girotto was diagnosed with breast cancer on the same day that she gave birth to her daughter, Anna.
During the first and last precious moments for them, Elisa made sure she left presents for 18 years of Christmases and birthdays. It included recorded messages as well.
9. Annmarie James-Thomas left a plan for happiness
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Before passing away in 2013, Annmarie James-Thomas of South Wales, left her family profound heartwarming gift that included 20 points of a plan for happiness.
The plan included:
- What you put out comes back all the time – no matter what.
- You define your own script. Don’t let others write your script for you.
- Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only if you give it power.
- When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
- Worrying is wasted time. Use the same energy for doing something about whatever worries you.
- Whatever you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.
10. Rafael Zoehler got a box full of prescient letters from his father
Rafael Zoehler’s father left him a box full of letters before passing away from cancer. Some of the titles of the letters in the box were: “When you have the worst fight ever with your mom,” “When you have your first kiss,” and “When you lose your virginity”
“My father followed me through my entire life. He was with me, even though he was not near me. His words did what no one else could: they gave me strength to overcome countless challenging moments in my life. He would always find a way to put a smile on my face when things looked grim, or clear my mind during those angry moments.”
11. The difficulty and beauty of writing letters for your children
Michelle Lynn Mayer shared on her vlog, her experience of the difficult task of writing letters and preparing gifts for your kids. She admitted, “It was hard to write the cards.”
“As I got further away from the present I realized I was writing to people I did not know, people I would never know. I can imagine the teenagers and the adults that they might become.”
She knew that the presents would be hard for her kids: “I don’t want to make their grief last any longer than necessary. I just want to still be with them someway, somehow after I’m gone.”