Love is the most beautiful thing that can happen to anyone, but it’s not exactly a walk in the park. It is pretty complicated and it requires constant work, devotion, and dedication. That is if you want to keep that spark alive and that fire burning.
But when we think of love we don’t necessarily mean just romantic love. Love can also come in many shapes and sizes. This could be romantic love, love in friendship, and family relationships, or even love for certain things like TV shows or food!
But what most people forgot is that you can fall out of love just as easily as you can fall in love. To stay in love you need to work on the problems your relationship is facing and to be honest with your partner about what is bothering you. You’ll probably won’t break up with them just because they’ve used all the toilet paper or ate the last piece of pizza, but sometimes it can actually be a collaboration of that and some other worrying behavior.
It’s always the little things that make a big difference!
Here are some worrying signs compiled by Aunty Acid that your relationship might be over and done.
1. Spending habits
You need to be equal to your partner when it comes to spending habits on common needs. If you both work, then the right thing to do is spend the same amount of money on food or travel expenses. If you are paying for your partners car, clothes or food all the time maybe this relationship is not the healthiest thing for you and you need to move on. Because it sounds more like a parent-child relationship, rather than a relationship between two adult individuals.
The same rule of equality applies when it comes to cleaning, cooking and just doing chores around the house. When you are in a healthy relationship you won’t feel like you are doing all the work, but if you do everything you will get pretty tired, pretty soon.
3. Grown up money
When it comes to money they are not the most important thing in a relationship. But, if you are planning a future with your partner it is good to have at least some financial support.
4. No one to turn to
When things get difficult and you are feeling like you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, you need your partner to be there for emotional support. Or when you get sick, your partner needs to be there to make you soup, hold your hand and be there for you in good time and in bad times. If he is nowhere to be found, you might need to reconsider things.
5. Stressful living
If you are under a lot of stress, you need your partner to be there to help you unwind. After all, what kind of relationship will it be if they are not the person you turn to when things get hard.
6. Gender types
Do you play the blame game with your partner when it comes to doing the ‘typical’ male or female work? You are angry because he can’t fix the car engine or he is not happy with you not being able to cook like Martha Steward. That mentality is dire cracks in the pillar of your relationship and it’s not fair either of you.
7. Negative comparison
You should never compare your partner to someone else who you think is better than them. That will make them have low self-esteem and they will start to question everything. If you’re being negatively compared or you’re doing the comparing, then this probably isn’t the relationship for you.
8. No one’s fault
In a relationship, both parties have to take responsibility for their actions. It’s the grown-up thing to do.
9. Weird hobbies
Every person is unique and every person has different interests and hobbies. You need to allow your partner to persuade theirs even if it means their collection of ships in bottles will be everywhere around your house.
10. Own interest at heart
In relationships, you need to be selfless and stop thinking only about yourself and what’s good for you. When you truly love someone you will care if everything is alright for them too. Making sacrifices is what true love is.
11. Dependant on them
If you feel any kind of dependency from your partner, whether that’s emotional, psychological, or financial dependency on them, then you should probably reconsider things.