We’ve all heard the famous ‘theory.’ How only children are stubborn, meaning that the order in which a child is born in their family, or whether they have siblings influences what type of person they become. While some child psychologists disagree about the personality traits that birth order predicts, according to Diply, there is a surprising amount that seems to be true when you look at the research that has been done.
However, this has not been the case for me and my younger brother. But hey, you know the saying – we may be the exception that proves the rule!
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Since time immemorial, humans have attempted to characterize how birth order affects who someone eventually becomes. So far, so good. But the problem arises when literally everyone seems to have their own idea about those traits.
But what does birth order truly predict?
Researchers have argued whether there is any association at all between the order a child is born and predictable personality traits. A wise position to take – it’s always better to err on the side of caution.
But while the research has been somewhat inconclusive to date, there have been a few traits that seem to be correlated with your birth position in your family.
Some experts believe that only children tend to be more mature. After all, they are always surrounded by adults!
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Dr. Gail Gross, a human behavior expert, told Huffington Post that these ‘lone wolf’ children have a tendency to be strongly independent. Only children have no other children to play with at home, so… That makes for an environment that may foster a strong sense of independence and resourcefulness.
Some researchers also believe that this well-developed sense of independence can lead to problems cooperating with other children in social settings. And we’ve all heard that one before, right?
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On the other hand, firstborns seem to be the most driven to achieve. Sounds familiar?
(As a first child, I’m shaking my head saying ‘no’).
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Due to the fact that parents spend so much one-on-one time with their firstborn, it is believed that these children eventually go on to become “over-responsible.” (Shaking my head ‘yes’ here. Duh!)
My older sister always told me that, until I came around, she was always number one in their eyes. She thinks this is the reason she always, even after I came around, needed to be the best kid. Not my fault, sis! (Meanwhile, my younger bro was like “Why wasn’t I born first?! I wanted to be the first goddammit!” Again, not my fault, bro!)
These firstborns may demonstrate some “bossy” qualities when the siblings start rolling in. (Because we may just be right about stuff in general, being more experienced you know, ugh.)
Think about it. Until a tiny baby comes into the home, no other children were around to order the firstborn around. For them, it seems like it’s their way or the highway. Remember, though, this isn’t the older sibling’s fault! (I concur!)
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Dr. Gail Gross highlights that second borns tend to be cooperative and flexible. (NOT true, I assure you!)
They had to deal with those bossy firstborns from day one and, maybe, had to work harder to get what they wanted. (Like ruining the older sibling’s every project, uh-huh. All those beautiful drawings I made as a kid, torn to pieces!)
For this reason, Dr. Gross concludes that middle children tend to be really concerned with rules.
Makes a lot of sense! (But is it true?)
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As the youngest child, you may have it easier. Parents may place fewer rules on you because they are way less concerned about safety issues than they were with their first.
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As a result, researchers say, you may be a little more free-spirited. Some believe that this leads the youngest child to resort more to charm and entertainment. Unlike the older children, who may have gotten their attention from parents at typical developmental milestones.
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Considering what they deal with, it’s amazing if the young ones really turn out more lighthearted and goofy…
One thing is for sure, however. At the end of the day, all of these unique personalities mix together to create one incredible family!