When you are in a relationship, at times it’s difficult to gauge whether something merits worrying about or if its just you being paranoid. And how do you know if the problems you are having with your partner are just a small bump along the way, or if it means that the relationship is destined to fail?
VT created a list of little things that may signify the fast approaching end of a relationship, by combining a number of different sources, one of them being a Reddit thread. The important thing to keep in mind, though, is that every couple is completely different, and these signs may not apply to you. However, if you notice that some of the things on this list are true for you and your partner, you may want to reevaluate your relationship. And remember that comunication is key. Don’t make assumptions: wait to make a decision until after talking things through with your significant other.
1. They have been acting distant
If your partner starts replying to your texts in a careless and hurried manner, if they don’t reply at all, or if they are too busy to take your calls, you may have reason to worry. It’s true that people communicate in different ways, but it’s not a good sign when your partner stops making an effort to contact you, or vice versa.
2. Less intimacy
This doesn’t have to be related to sex. Intimacy can include all kinds of physical contact, from a kiss on the cheek to holding hands. If these little gestures start happening less and less, there might be a problem.
3. You spend less time together
The fact that your partner is always busy and keeps cancelling plans resulting in less time spent together could make you feel like you’re not their priority anymore. When a distance starts developing between the two of you, it can lead to serious issues.
4. If you have to get drunk to have a good time together
Maybe this isn’t a problem for most couples. However, if you can’t spend time together without basing it on consuming alcohol on drugs, it seems that there is no passion between you, nothing to entertain you when you’re sober.
5. Fantasizing about a life without them
Anyone is allowed the odd indulging in a flight of fancy, even if they are in a healthy relationship. But if you constantly make elaborate fantasies about life without your partner, or about being with other people, it might mean that you’re not in the right relationship.
6. If you think of talking to them as a chore
It may seem obvious that you would want to talk to your significant on the phone and ask them about their day. But, a lot of people consider this call at the end of the day as a chore they have to do, instead of looking forward to it.
7. Their quirks become irritating
When you love someone, you tend to find their quirks adorable. But if they start to really annoy you, your relationship may be headed towards its end.
When things that you found exciting about your partner fail to evoke feelings in you, it’s not a good sign. Even if it’s just details, small things that you used to love but now just don’t matter, this points to an overall pretty negative attitute towards each other.
9. When you stop fighting
Having arguments doesn’t necessarily lead to a break-up. But if you stop arguining over things that are important, it may mean one of two things: you either think having a serious conversation is just not worth it, or your dedication to your relationship is starting to weaken. Either way spells doom for your relationship.
Don’t take this list as fact. Surely it doesn’t apply to lots of couples out there. However, when so many people find these hints to hold a deeper meaning, perhaps there might be something there after all.