Just after giving birth, Betsy Ayala found out that her husband was cheating on her. In the mean messages to his mistress he accused her of putting on too much weight and called her names like “fat f*ck” and “cow” behind her back.
Now, Ayala has lost over a hundred pounds and divorced her husband. She beat him hands-down!
“Now I honestly feel that what he did was a blessing because otherwise I would have been the way I was forever. I prayed all the time for my life to change and my prayers were answered just maybe not in the way I envisioned but I got a second shot at a fresh start and I’m grateful for that. It’s changed everything in my life. I would cry after every workout and it was then that I decided that this wouldn’t define me and I was going to change for me and for my daughter. I wanted her to be proud of her mum and I wanted to be an example for her.”
#FBF “I’ve never seen a life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit” – Elizabeth Gilbert … How many transformation pictures do you have to see until you’re tired of the BS too? ♀️ I know the dril, follow transformation IG’s that inspire you, sign up for the gym membership, stock the fridge with healthy food, buy the workout gear and say you’ll start on Monday but then you don’t or you do and by Wednesday you’re back to the same song and dance. When is enough going to be enough #getyourlife ❤️ ——————————————————- New 21 Day Challenge Starting Soon!!!!! If you’re interested curious or honestly even skeptical send me a dm or contact me via 281-829-8459 or firstname.lastname@example.org … if you’re ready you can visit my site link in the bio – You have almost three months left in the year and I’m ready for some new results … join me won’t you? ——————————————————- #21dayshakechallenge #lightthematch #alwaysinpursuit #relentless #fitmom #fitchick #girlswholift #momswholift #fitness #fitspo #weightloss #transformation #body afterbaby #wellnesscoach #fueledbyherbalife #boss #mommymakeover #weightlosstransformation #beforeandafter #Herbalife #herbalife24
“I had pretty much had weight issues my whole life. I was always the chubby kid, I never played sports or wanted to take part in physical activity because I was overweight. I did get bullied in school and got picked on. I think for me eating was like self-medication. I have anxiety and instead of dealing with the real source of my anxiety I would eat and then that would become the source of my anxiety and I would eat some more and it was just a vicious cycle.
“After I had my daughter I was the heaviest I had ever been. My 14 year relationship was very strained and I was in a very severe postpartum depression and anxiety. I couldn’t sleep and I had no desire to function at all but I had a newborn so it was a very difficult time.”
In four months, she lost 6 pounds and burned off even more weight after uncovering her husband’s affair.
“I started having more energy and losing weight, even though that wasn’t really my intention at the time and slowly started to get better. I started in September and was doing okay until two days after Christmas, when I found out my husband was cheating on me with a co-worker. I had been with him since I was 17 and pretty much devoted my life to our relationship and him.”
#transformationtuesday / #shithappens POST ♀️ – It’s been a minute since I’ve posted a transformation picture let me be honest getting fit and focusing on results has been the last thing on my mind lately … I know most of you follow me for this reason but my intention is always to be as real as possible with you and LIFE is is just that sometimes … the last couple of weeks have been nothing short of intense … I want to share because I know life happens to everyone and at those times is when it’s soooo difficult to focus and honestly you lose focus and that’s ok sometimes … there’s no such thing as perfect balance ♀️ there are aspects of your life that will suffer because you have to focus on others and that’s OK! Right now my focus has been on my family and on me mentally and spiritually … physically and business not so much. I’m blessed that I can take that time and do that Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do because you know that it’s the right thing to do and everything else will just figure itself out and it will I promise. When you do things from your heart and your intentions are pure and selfless the universe has a way of setting you up for a comeback I can vouch for that. I’m not someone who does well with pretending and posing it’s never been my thing so there you have it I hope that if you are in a funk in your life you know you’re not alone and that is just life just know that you can’t remain there forever at some point you just get up and keep moving refocus and get on with it … Blessings and love always ——————————————– #realtalk #lightthematch #alwaysinpursuit #relentless #fitmom #fitchick #girlswholift #momswholift #fitness #fitspo #weightloss #transformation #bodyafterbaby #wellnesscoach #fueledbyherbalife #boss #mommymakeover #weightlosstransformation #beforeandafter #Herbalife #herbalife24
“I was devastated. I found out through some messages I read on his Facebook where they were calling me a cow and a fat f**k and just trashing me and my whole world fell apart. He would always tell me I looked fine or would try to get me to eat junk all the time which is why I was so devastated when I read those messages because it was almost like he enabled me or wanted me to stay that way.”
Ayala has come a long way:
“I was always very negative and had a chip on my shoulder because I was unhappy with me. I’m happier, I’m confident and most of all I’m positive. I know that I’m capable of so much and I’m so happy to set a good example for my daughter which is extremely important for me.”
And she’s even forgiven her unfaithful ex:
“My ex-husband and I are actually good now. It took me a while to get to that place of forgiveness but what he did was about him and not me. My journey has really helped me understand that.”
It’s been a minute since I posted a workout vid … I always start upper body day with these #FAVE ( 1 set of each of these three x 20 , x 15, x 12, x 10 = 151 pull ups) one of the most asked workout questions from girls is how do you get rid of armpit fat? ♀️ First ☝ in my experience the best overall way to get rid of body fat in stubborn places is overall body fat loss, my stubborn areas have been the hardest to get rid of ✌ Second … Dont ignore your upper body! I think girls are sometimes scared of doing that because they think they’re going to look like the Incredible Hulk #wrong since I started doing upper body 3 times a week it’s changed my shape tremendously, helping me get a smaller mid section and toning my arms #fueledbyherbalife24 ❤️ —————————————– #21dayshakechallenge #lightthematch #alwaysinpursuit #relentless #fitmom #fitchick #girlswholift #momswholift #fitness #fitspo #weightloss #transformation #bodyafterbaby #wellnesscoach #fueledbyherbalife #boss #mommymakeover #weightlosstransformation #beforeandafter #Herbalife #herbalife24
But I must say that if someone is calling you fat it doesn’t mean you have to lose 100 pounds in some miracle transformation. Ayala felt that she was gaining back her self-confidence.