Everyone in the world lives hoping to one day be reunited with their half orange. Even if you don’t want to admit it, deep down you have dreamed of learning what true love really feels like. To find that special person you want to spend every waking second with, who takes your breath away as soon as they enter a room, whose smile melts away all your troubles, whose mere presence grounds you and inspires you. Someone to hold every night as you fall asleep, and to wake up next to every morning.
But what are the essential qualities that make that person really special? A few guys on Reddit decided to share what they want their life partners to be like and Aunty Acid have collected their valuable insight.
1. Someone to laugh with
“And a sense of humor doesn’t mean she laughs at funny things. It means she says funny things or does funny things. It means she makes YOU laugh. And that she does it regularly. If you have to think ‘when was the last time she made me laugh… a few weeks ago?’ then she doesn’t have a sense of humor.”
Right you are, sir! Everyone needs laughter and joy in their lives, and if your partner doesn’t bring them into yours, then you might end up feeling miserable in your relationship.
2. Someone to fight alongside with
“Wife material is easy to recognize; just ask yourself if you’d want that girl back to back with you to fight off sharks.”
This person goes went for one of the most important qualities. After all, you need to know you can count on her in life-or-death situations because you can’t build a relationship without trust.
3. Someone who inspires you
“Someone who makes me better than I am.”
If you find someone who inspires you to become a better person, don’t let her go. She’s a keeper. In a good relationship, both partners make each other want to constantly improve and become better people.
4. Someone you’re attracted to
“She’s got to be attractive to me, otherwise I don’t think I’d be interested in getting to know her, to begin with. But ‘being attractive’ isn’t just about looks. Unfortunately, I can’t get around “good first impressions.” That being said, she’d need to have some sort of hobbies and interests. Literally anything that isn’t “watching TV.” I don’t care if she drags me to a freakin’ museum with weird crap, as long as she’s into something.”
Seeing your partner’s passion for their hobbies and the fire in their eyes as they tell you all about it can certainly be very attractive.
5. Someone who challenges you
“I want someone that I can argue with (and who will argue with me), without it turning into a fight. Someone that can call me on my BS when it matters, who isn’t going to flip out if I call her on hers. I’d much rather be with someone who will challenge me and make me rethink things than someone who is trying too hard to be nice and sweet all the time. (Then again, I may just have a thing for hot-tempered girls.)”
Different people need different things. Some of them can’t stand arguing, others can’t live without it. It’s all about finding that match.
6. Someone who isn’t too serious
“The biggest thing that set my wife apart from every other girl I dated was just our ability to not take things so seriously. I don’t mean not taking our relationship seriously. Of course, we’re committed to each other and our relationship, however, we really don’t get overly serious about our day to day interactions.”
This is very important. You can’t spend your life taking everything way too seriously. You need someone who you can have a good laugh with.
7. Someone who feels comfortable in their own skin
“She loves what she does, she cares about herself as much as she cares about me and she smiles a lot. 🙂 Bonus: she likes the same music as me.”
Her music taste is crucial. After all, if you can’t rock out with your girl, then who will you rock out with?
8. Someone who is a good person
“How they treat others, especially when there is nothing to gain. Looks will fade over time, but things like kindness and respect for each other should always be there.”
Being a loving person doesn’t just mean loving your partner. Be kind and respectful to everyone around you and you will find your true love, you’ll see.
How about you? What qualities do you look for in your potential partner? Do you agree with these men? Tell us in the comments!