Everyone wants to be attractive. That’s why we pay close attention to the smallest details and spend a lot of time making sure we look spiffy. But, it’s not all about the way we look! The charm and beauty you were born with is not the only factor that determines whether or not people will find you attractive. Something that plays a great role in this is the way you act. There are some small things that perhaps you do everyday, maybe even without noticing, that could be putting people off. Here is a quick list of 10 things that make you less attractive, courtesy of Shared.
1. Lack of sleep
Science has spoken: sleep makes you look better (as if you needed another reason to do it). According to a Swedish study, people who hadn’t slept in 31 hours had “droopy/hanging eyelids, red eyes, dark circles under the eyes, and pale skin.” Which makes them less attractive, less healthy, and less happy than those who’d had a full night’s sleep.
Source: Tylenol Sleep Centre
2. Being stressed out
When they say your feelings show on your face, they aren’t kidding. And when you feel stressed, you look stressed as well. And the chances of men being attracted to women who are stressed are pretty slim, according to a study from 2013. One of the researchers believes that the presence of cortisol (the stress hormone) affects how we judge another person’s fertility and overall health.
3. Smiling too much
Too much of anything is a bad thing. Turns out that goes for smiling as well. Overly proud or too happy faces are less attractive. At least that’s what a study from the University of British Columbia has shown. The study consisted in participants rating the people in a collection of photographs they were shown. For men, women were more attractive when they were smiling, but didn’t look proud. The opposite held true for women: they found the proud men more attractive than the happy ones.
4. Contractive body language
The fact that crossing arms, hanging your head, or hunching your shoulders are turn-offs has been proven by studies from four different U.S. universities. When you are adopting such defensive body language in your Tinder profile photo, for example, people are less likely to swipe right. Instead, they prefer it when the potential candidates for partners are in “expansive positions,” for example, if they’re reaching upwards with their arms, or if they are standing with their shoulders squared.
5. Smelling too similar or too different
A person’s natural scent goes a long way in attracting others. Even longer than you may think. Indeed, according to some studies, what people want in a partner is immune system genes that are neither too similar or too different from their own. And smell is very important in the determining of genetic compatibility and attraction. Researchers who took DNA samples from a group of couples discovered that the MHCs of the ones who were least attracted to each other were either too close or too contrasting with each other.
6. Not having a sense of humor
No-one likes to be with someone who is miserable all the time! Laughter is an essential part of what makes you attractive. And having a sense of humour is equally important for both genders, as shown by a study by the University of California. “The way to anyone’s heart is through their funny bone,” wrote R.J. Wilson.
7. Being mean
It’s an old cliche that good girls like bad boys. But, it’s not always true. In fact, people who are thought to be mean are less attractive, according to a Chinese study. During the study, which was conducted on both male and female participants, they were given photos of people with little or no facial expression. Some of them perceived positive qualities in the photographed people, like honesty, but others labeled them mean or evil. Despite the neutral face, once they were labeled as mean, they were considered less attractive.
8. Excessive smoking or drinking
Every “cool” high school student smokes and drinks. But what may seem ‘cool’ in the eyes of a teenager, isn’t attractive for an adult looking for a long-term partner. Researchers surveyed over 200 women, and the results showed that women are less likely to be attracted to men who were frequent smokers or drinkers. It’s hardly surprising. After all, bad habits can’t be the foundation of a happy relationship.
9. Too much laziness
In 2004, there was a study that took place over a period of 6 weeks during a student archaeology expedition. At the beginning, the students had to rate their colleagues based on the level of their attractiveness. They did the same once the course was finished. The results showed that some of the participants who at the beginning were deemed attractive, at the end weren’t. They received a lower rating because they were perceived as lazy.
10. Acting too superior
Narcissistic behaviour is not attractive. There was a study conducted in 2014 in which students were asked to rate people based on how they described themselves. The more humble ones were rated much higher than the ones who were cocky.