As young adults, we often wonder about our future as parents. I want to believe that I will be a good parent to my future children and it intrigues me quite to know whether there is a formula to successful parenting.
Even though most of the raising stories and outcomes are situational, I think that some of the parenting traits that are pinned down here will work on the long run.
This list of shared parenting traits initially appeared in the businessinsider.com and I decided to break it down with you in a most immediate and approachable manner.
Former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of “How to Raise an Adult”, Julie Lythcott-Haims said: “If kids aren’t doing the dishes, it means someone else is doing that for them.”
“And so they’re absolved of not only the work, but of learning that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute for the betterment of the whole.”
This truly is a valuable advice. To hold your kid accountable of any daily chores earlier in their formative years is to install accountability for later. Cutting your kid some slack will never take him anywhere.
2. Social Skills
There is a high correlation between the way kids behave with people in their immediate surroundings and how far they would have come in life.
During a study of Researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University, 700 students’ behavior was tracked.
The 20-year study showed that students who readily cooperate with their peers without being forced to, were far more likely to succeed graduating and holding a steady job in life.
3. High Expectations
Having expectations for your kid’s future ventures is one way in which you can actually move your kid to strive to reach them, in a totally self-fulfilling prophecy manner.
“Parents who saw college in their child’s future seemed to manage their child toward that goal irrespective of their income and other assets,” said University of California at Los Angeles professor Neal Halfon.
4. Parents Who Attained Higher Educational Levels
Bowling Green State University psychologist Eric Dubow conducted a 2009 longitudinal study of 856 people in semi rural New York.
“Parents’ educational level when the child was 8 years old significantly predicted educational and occupational success for the child 40 years later” is what he found.
5. Math, math and beyond
Coauthor and Northwestern University researcher Greg Duncan said that learning rudimentary mathematical operations early on is of paramount importance.
“Mastery of early math skills predicts not only future math achievement, it also predicts future reading achievement.”
6. Develop A Relationship With Your Kid
“Investments in early parent-child relationships may result in long-term returns that accumulate across individuals’ lives,” coauthor and University of Minnesota psychologist Lee Raby said in an interview.
There is no greater gift that a parent can give to their child than the effort of trying their best to get to know their child and its needs, its worldview, its deepest wished and dreams.
7. Less Stressed Parents
When it comes to this particular hypothesis, research shows that there is a correlation between the parents’ stress and a condition called emotional contagion.
Namely, women and men who juggle between work and parenting are more stressed and are quicker to ‘infect’ the child with those feelings.
So, try your best to lessen stress, for yourself first and foremost and then for your child.
8. Moms Working Outside of Home
The progressive and successful mom is a strong role-model in the family.
“Role modeling is a way of signaling what’s appropriate in terms of how you behave, what you do, the activities you engage in, and what you believe,”said Harvard Business School professor Kathleen L. McGinn.
9. Higher economic status
Self-explanatory. Students who are exposed to a thoroughly prepared ciruculum will perform better and that’s a fact. Education needs funding to thrive and be as progressive and up-to-date as possible.
Same goes for people who can afford education for their children or not.
10. Installing ‘grit’
Grit defines the “tendency to sustain interest in and effort toward very long-term goals”.
University of Pennsylvania psychologist Angela Duckworth is the one credited to have uncovered and defined this personality trait.
Try installing this trait in your kid from a very early age. No matter what is it that they want to achieve, try making them the masters of grit.
11. Bias-proof name
The easier and the commoner your name, the better. You want to be on someone’s mind.
12. The Importance of Good Nutrition and Eating Habits
I cannot stress enough the importance of good nutrition. Dr. Catherine Steiner-Adair says that parents play a crucial role in developing food habits in kids.
A balanced diet, first and foremost will affect the way children look at themselves, will create a body-positive image and will create healthy eating habits which are crucial for the well being of any individual.