After a quarter of a century together, Amy Betters-Midtvedt and Todd Midvedtzs’s marriage doesn’t look very Instagram-perfect. But that’s what makes it so special and perhaps why their story immediately went viral: theirs is the kind of love one might “hope” to find.
When Betters-Midtvedt shared a picture on Facebook, she wanted to sum up how everyday love looks like after a lot of years being together.
“Listen up young ones,” she begins the letter. “This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40s.”
“Yes, that’s my amazing husband who is arriving on the scene with his credit card because what you can’t see is me, standing next to a cart super full of groceries that I couldn’t pay for because I couldn’t find my wallet,” the mother-of-five writes.
“Not sure you can tell, but he’s smiling at me,” Betters-Midtvedt wrote in the photo caption. “Yup… he had to leave work and he is smiling. His only words of admonishment were, ‘You’re not supposed to be grocery shopping I said I’d go this week.’ Seriously.”
Then, the Appleton, Wisconsin-based blogger shared all the other ways in which her husband shows her his love after 25 years together.
“Love also looks like me coming downstairs to a full pot of coffee every morning because coffee is love,” she writes. “Love looks like all the lunches being made already so I can enjoy that aforementioned cup of coffee.”
Amy and Todd on their wedding day
According to her, this is the kind of love she hopes her kids will find someday.
“Do not be fooled by big, showy proposals and giant cards with candy bars glued to them with some cute saying or by your name spelled in pepperoni by a boy who’s asking you to homecoming,” she quips. “Watch how he treats you when Instagram isn’t looking.”
Todd and their five kids
In an interview with HuffPost, Betters-Midtvedt said she was overwhelmed by the comments people have left in response to her post.
“When I watched Todd walking into Aldi’s after I totally disrupted his day and he was still happy to see me, I just felt like, man, this is it: real love in action,” she said. “And there are so many ways that he makes me feel loved that have nothing to do with what the world would say romance is.”
When asked how does she reciprocate the love, Betters-Midtvedt told HuffPost: “I like to make sure he is well fed; food is his love language. A good pot of chili is the way to his heart.”
She admits forgetfulness and selflessness are two of their relationship’s traits.
“I have been known to drop off a credit card myself, or bring gas when he’s stranded or just make sure that things are running smoothly in general,” she said. “It’s all about the little things.”
If you agree, make sure you share this unique story with your loved ones.