When it comes to photographers, it is said that they see moments with a different kind of approach. It’s basically what they say about the artists, that ‘they see the world differently’, and well, photographers are artists as well. It may depend on what one is photographing, but in most cases, wedding photographers somehow get to be ‘insiders’ in the lives of the newlyweds. It’s said that they may notice the couple’s behavior, dedication, and connection simply by taking snapshots of the pair. And, maybe, just maybe, they can even sense how long the marriage would last after the wedding day and the photoshoots were all done.
Below you will find a list of what some photographers and Reddit users said about the relationships they photographed, and why they thought their marriage wouldn’t go to a good end.
1. Lack of connection
“We are looking specifically for moments of contact, of intimacy, of emotional connection. It pretty quickly becomes evident when those things are there, and when they are not.”
2. A simple confession that speaks a lot
“I went to the bathroom at one [wedding] and the husband was washing his hands next to me and I made some compliment about how things had come together and joked that it must be a good sign for the future.
“He, in a very very apathetic tone said, ’Well, we’ll see how we do’ and walked out.”
3. To kiss or not to kiss – that is the question
“So he poses a kissing shot of the couple, and when he asks them to kiss the bride goes ’oh, no, no thank you’ in this weird little mousey voice.”
4. When there’s lack of support
“One couple worried me, because the bride was a tense wreck during the whole ceremony and reception to the point that I didn’t get many useable pictures of her because she looked so stressed out and unhappy,”
“Meanwhile the groom was with his friends having a great time, but not helping her with anything or responding at all to her panic.”
5. Knowing the difference between the wedding and a marriage
“Many couples, particularly young couples, pretty clearly have in mind a wedding but have put little thought and planning into a marriage.”
6. The idea of an open marriage
“During the reception the bride told him they were going to have an open marriage and basically offered herself up to him, which he politely declined.”
7. The power of the speech
“I’ve heard some truly heartfelt, touching words shared during toasts … and have heard others that were seriously underwhelming. If it isn’t easy for you to think of why this person is a good match for your friend, that’s a bad sign.”
8. Non-stop arguing
“If I only know you for eight hours, but I know you’re upset your new spouse didn’t let you plan any of the wedding, then I’m not sure you have your priorities straight.”
9. The groom and the best man
“Like once when there was more sexual tension between the groom and the best man than between the groom and the bride.”
I mean, before rushing into matrimony, or staying in any type of relationship – make sure you are happy.