Tying the knot is not an easy decision to make. And, having someone putting pressure to find someone since “you’ve reached the age” is not fun at all.
A first-hand proof of what I stated above is the Oxford student Lulu Jemimah. The 32-year-old reached a point that she was tired of people asking her when she is getting married and thought of tying the knot with herself. Yes, you read that right. Now, she probably won’t have people asking her that anymore.
The Oxford student had her family always lecturing her how settling down with the right man is important. However, she was not on the same page with her family as she is in her master studies in creative writing at the Prestigious University.
What she did to get her parents off her back is staging a mocking wedding and sending formal invites out to her nearest and dearest.
She didn’t miss any of the details out that a wedding ceremony consists of. She even hired a dress, walked through the venue to the traditional wedding march, and also gave a speech to her guests explaining the lack of a groom.
On her ‘wedding’ day, the Oxford student arranged a last-minute ceremony at Quepasa Bar in the Ugandan capital Kampala on August 27 which was he 32nd birthday.
The 32-year-old who is a student at the Oxford University previousely worked as a freelance journalist and a communications consultant for the International Organisation for Migration. However, in 2013 she received a BA Media (film) scholarship from Macquarie University in Australia.
After completing her undergraduate degree, she turned her attention to the UK and applied to Oxford University to do a masters, which she started in August 2017.
I could not believe that they had chosen me. I still can’t believe it.
The Oxford student, who is very determined to the commitment with herself and the studies, admitted that her parents are confused with the decision she took to marry herself.
Her ‘wedding’ day cost just £2 (the taxi to the pub venue) as her friends paid for all the expenses as a gift for her big day.
Proud singleton Lulu admitted she has a “strong passion in life and she’s committed to achieving her goals at becoming an academic.”
The 32-year-old added:
But all my family wanted to ask me was when I planned to get married – which is very important back in Uganda – followed by when I would be having children and starting a family.
My father wrote my wedding speech when I turned 16. Every birthday my mother prayed for me and in recent years this has included a plea for a good husband.
This is how the Oxford University student looked in her big day.
The reason why the 32-year-old decided to ‘marry’ herself was due to her success, and also all her parents could think of was when is she getting a boyfriend and tie the knot.
She’s not very enthusiastic when it comes to marriage.
But I just didn’t want to think about walking up the aisle. It’s not the thing which keeps me up at night.
On the big day, one of Lulu’s friends played the role of the vicar as she staged a mocking exchange of vows with herself in front of around 30 guests.
All of this started off as a joke by her. The 32-year-old joked how she’d ‘show up in a wedding dress’ and this is how the idea stuck. She said:
One of my closest friends Karin reminded me that I had a lot to celebrate this year like getting into Oxford and I joked that I would show up in a wedding dress.
We had been talking about this marriage pressure and she loved the idea so much that she offered to get me the wedding gown.
After that, she decided to marry herself.
She got everything backed up by her friends. Her best friend, who works as a web designer, made and printed her invites, her friend paid to hire her dress, while her brother baked her cake. A friend did Lulu’s makeup in the loos at the venue, and the bar owner – also a friend – played the wedding march as she exited the toilets and walked into the venue.
The 32-year-old told how everyone was so curious to know whom the groom was when she sent the invitations. However, she told everyone the groom was a surprise.
It’s shocking the price of wedding gowns in Uganda but when I told them I was marrying myself they offered to find me their cheapest dress.
I did feel a bit crazy trying on the dress and explaining that I was marrying myself. There was a kind of dismissive tolerance from the girls in the bridal shop.
The place where the 32-year-old rented the dress were so impressed when they saw in her ID that she’s a student at Oxford University.
I had to leave an ID card behind and when they saw my Oxford university card they screamed and were so impressed. I tried a few on and I almost cried.
It really is a special moment and I understood more than I had the excitement around weddings.
Many people attended Lulu’s wedding ceremony and she was so happy about it saying:
I was extremely happy. So many friends showed up, as well as international and local journalists, film directors and feminist entrepreneurs.
Marriage is an expression of love and commitment, however for many people back home, it is still considered the only way to guarantee a woman’s financial security.
She thought she would come off as stupid. However, she had a strong intellectual group of friends behind the idea.
I had worried about coming off as stupid but to have such a strong intellectual group of friends behind the idea, that was all the validation I needed for the choices I have made.
Her parents didn’t attend the big day but she did go and see her mother to explain her choice.
When we talked the next day she was a bit confused and slightly hurt, but explained that by even wearing a wedding dress it proved I was ready for marriage.
My father still maintains that he doesn’t know what to say.
The wedding wasn’t legally binding – as you can’t legally marry yourself – and Lulu is currently crowdfunding to help pay for her tuition.
I constantly tried to look for scholarships, grants and [have] even contacted embassies and government bodies.
I considered taking out a loan but was told, as an international student, I was not eligible.
From the generosity of 279 people (many friends, most strangers), I managed to secure the first year’s tuition. I am now crowdfunding to pay for my full second-year tuition.
Before you go, you might also want to read: Woman Embracing Self-Love Marries Herself After Her Recent Break-Up